終於明白點解我會咁大壓力, 源頭並不是來自BB, 原來是來自母親大人. 好多事我都明白, 我明白佢想幫我, 而我次次見到佢買野比BB我又將我的不滿收埋, 唉, 原本以為有個人會舒服D, 點知仲辛苦過自己做. 好似今日, 見到BB肚餓, 已經喊哂, 又話沖完凉先食野, 沖凉搞到喊哂, B辛苦我又心痛, 佢成曰話BB喊下好閒, 叫我唔好咁緊張, 其實我無野, 係佢見到就抱, 講一套做一套, 跟住又成曰話我地唔聽佢講, 其實佢自己毫無經驗, 我見到佢湊都心寒. 跟住有次BB喊, 老公就抱住佢氹佢, 母親大人想抱下但老公阻止, 佢又唔開心, 關門大覺訓. 其實我而家先知佢好細路, 小小事就耿耿於懷, 同佢講佢仲係我面前喊話我變左, 態度差, 我個刻真係吹脤脹, 令我真係好辛苦. 有時我都需要休息, 因為我係夜晚照顧BB, 所以早上時間係母親大人湊, 我老公覺得我應該多D時間擺係BB度, 但佢有無想過我都會累, 我唔覺得BB比人照顧一個早上就會忘記父母, 而且我唔係鐵人, 比媽凑一陣應該唔會太大不了, 但就搞到我好大压力. 可能有一曰, 我同個女遠走高飛, 真係頂唔順.
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放鬆啲啦 俾啲時間慢慢嚟 依家大家都係適應期
ReplyDelete妳有媽媽幫忙已經好好啦 起碼唔使又洗又煮先有飯食 好多人都要自己一腳踢呀
都係一家人 彼此包容吓 體諒吓啦
[版主回覆06/15/2012 08:54:49]唉, 努力中, 如果個個都咁明白事理就好
有事就係blog度發洩啦，好多人會支持妳的
ReplyDelete但發洩完就唔好再唔開心啦，妳同妳媽始終係兩母女，冇隔夜仇嘅
[版主回覆06/15/2012 08:56:59]係, blog係一個好好嘅發洩地方, 多謝你支持呀, 有唔開心但無得選擇, 所以都只不過係發洩啫
佢好細路, 小小事就耿耿於懷. ----> 明白啦, 好似要湊兩個小朋友咁, 大嗰個仲識"駁咀".
ReplyDelete搵日搵個適當時候, 大家都平心靜氣, 同媽咪再傾你既感受, 當然一開始時要多謝佢先, 各有各既想法呀, 佢可能認為山長水遠飛黎幫你, 但得唔到你認同, 唔開心囉, 咁你讚完媽咪, 再講吓自己既感受, 佢就無咁排斥去聽, 大家溝通溝通啦. 其實好彩係兩母女咋, 如果係家姑, 咁既情況, 更難搞.
[版主回覆06/15/2012 09:00:05]係, 大個個仲要理佢感受, 所以好惡搞! 好多野都明白, 不過做時就難, 反而唔一齊住仲好, 多D私人空間.
Add oil ar... You a doing great... Don't mind what other people say...
ReplyDelete[版主回覆06/15/2012 14:19:18]its really hard not to concern other feelings. sometimes its lucky to have nobody around
放輕鬆, 有好多原因既, 佢又唔係長期呢度, 所以佢會想同個bb 多d 時間, 另外其實真係人老左真係會反老還童架, 唔好咁啦, 可能有一日你都會好似佢咁, 只係another version :)
ReplyDelete人生活就好似一塊鏡咁...
[版主回覆06/15/2012 14:29:30]哈哈, 希望將來亞女唔嫌我阻住哂 :-P
已經做得好好ga la!!! 你同媽咪分配好時間照顧bb就得...唔好咁介意你老公講乜喇!! 仲有呀...你媽咪愛孫心切而己....忍多一陣喇!!!
ReplyDelete[版主回覆06/15/2012 16:41:05]好難忍, 而家簡直挑戰我嘅低線, 唉.....
Most grand parents are the same way, no different! My sister-in-law has 3 boys, and her mother, is doing exactly what ytour mom is doing!!!
ReplyDelete[版主回覆06/15/2012 21:58:40]and thats annoying lol
陪BB當然重要，但係你都需要休息。如果你捱病，更加唔可以照顧BB。你媽媽肯幫忙已經好好，因為你可以趁呢段時間休息休息。你媽媽唔識，你可以教佢，佢應該會聽。下次BB肚餓，比佢食奶先，沖涼可以遲D做
ReplyDelete[版主回覆06/16/2012 02:41:05]佢係唔會聽, 因為佢以為自己識, 同埋佢個套係HK, 美國既野有D唔同. 算啦, 我已經好盡量做到控制情緒, 希望坐月後出街行下會好D
我都覺得老人家好似小朋友有時要人氹下,妳都好啦,自己阿媽黎,我係奶奶同老爺過黎幚手,到時我想我情況比妳更大壓力。
ReplyDelete[版主回覆06/17/2012 17:18:07]咁會好辛苦, 無人幫你手坐月, 因為開頭你傷口一定痛, 抱BB唔可以太耐, 加上你需要休息,希望你老公凑B ok 啦!
[Grimace回覆06/17/2012 15:51:32]阿媽湊住我阿哥個BB,本來都話過來一個月,不過我唔想佢過黎淨係服待我又無得去玩,好似好辛苦,我就叫佢唔好過來,下次等BB大個D先過來玩,我奶奶都唔係過來幫手,佢生之前一日先到,仲話自己手痛,唔抱得B仔,唔知佢地過來仲乜野,好彩老公可以放一個月大假幫手,如果唔係就要請月子保母。
[版主回覆06/16/2012 10:59:47]真係慘，希望到時唔好好似我咁有depression. 點解你媽唔幫手？
不要勞氣.現在妳是夾心人,最好就是做傻妺,由人講晒做晒,一於聽唔倒大覺訓,滿月後再講,
ReplyDelete[版主回覆06/16/2012 11:01:14]我都想，不過我又睇唔過
Mrs. Wu,
ReplyDelete-相見好，同住難，自己屋企人都係咁話.
-其實你和媽媽和你老公，都係錫B女先咁緊張.
-你就黎坐完月，一家三口出街行下，食下野，散下心，開心下.
[版主回覆06/16/2012 19:49:43]明白相見好同住難道理，所以分開住係有著數。
我媽比爸縱壞，有少許唔順從就唔中意，慘！
[冬日 Winter回覆06/16/2012 18:22:16]Vicky 講得對, 相見好, 同住難....
Mrs. Wu,, 妳, 妳老公和妳母親都會對初生BB特別緊張....這是正常.
過多一些日子後, 大家的注意力就會分散些, 這些壓力就會消失....
不用太過擔心, 灰心.....
多謝你到訪豆潤之家呀！得閒再黎坐下同留個言啦～
ReplyDelete家庭話晒多咗個小朋友，頭嗰幾個月個個人要時間磨合，一定會係煩躁ｄ，嘈多ｄ架喇！遲ｄ一定會好ｄ架，加油呀～
[版主回覆06/18/2012 03:12:10]你好！要磨合真係要時間同勇氣，不過有信心好快會ok
Mrs Wu, 崩潰完又要從新出發, 和家人一齊揍BB就是這樣有挑戰....!!
ReplyDelete[版主回覆06/20/2012 02:00:24]日日都係挑戰, 真係忙過返工
Mrs.Wu 晚上好,看來湊BB的壓力比讀書還要大啊!...慶幸Mummy凑到我而家咁大了...BB長大DD可能妳就冇咁辛苦的了...有冇BB相睇呀?...一定越黎越標緻了...
ReplyDelete[版主回覆06/20/2012 02:06:59]我都以為凑B好易, 點知原來勁大壓， 真係好累!
relax ....
ReplyDeleteI hope it is better now. I totally understand your situation. We all have different ways to look at things, especially parenting. It is frustrating and exhausting to have third party, even though that's mom and she's only trying to be helpful. Take a deep breathe, and after everyone's calm down, talk about your feelings, show her you do appreciate her, not agreeing doesn't mean you don't appreciate her or think she's wrong, just what you prefer more. Or you can share the new "readings" from blogs (about parenting or how to raise a baby), and discuss about it.
ReplyDeleteHannah is really cute. Take care yourself and get more rest when you can :-) Cheers!
有時上一代和現代湊仔的方法是不同的, 所以我還是不要老人家的幫忙, 以免傷感情.
ReplyDelete希望你現在好一點.